If you are on social media platforms, chances are you’ve likely encountered the term “Almond Moms”. This phrase is used to describe the personality type of mothers who are perpetually stuck in diet culture. It was popularized when on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Yolanda Hadid told her then 17-year old daughter Gigi Hadid to satisfy her hunger with a couple of almonds. Since then, “Almond Mom” memes have emerged, poking fun at moms who indulge sparingly, perhaps only enjoying a bite of pizza before feeling full. However, the popularity of this meme masks a deeper reality: the lasting impact of such attitudes on young women.
While the memes are all lighthearted, they overlook the profound effects that growing up surrounded by diet culture can have, especially on daughters. This is because they are internalizing these household norms combined with Western societal pressures that tend to equate thinness with beauty. Therefore, growing up with a parent who is monitoring and commenting on their own and their children’s eating habits and appearance can perpetuate eating disorders (EDs) or disordered eating patterns. For the children on the receiving end, this unhealthy relationship with food can linger long into adulthood.
That being said, we must give our Almond Moms grace, because they too are daughters. Their intent is far from malicious, they were sharing attitudes that were culturally normal in the environments they grew up in. Parenting is an incredibly challenging journey, and it’s unreasonable to expect perfection, especially when many mothers have never known an alternative perspective.
In recent years Western culture has begun to embrace body neutrality, self-acceptance and decreasing the stigma of mental health disorders, including eating disorders. While these are phenomenal steps in the right direction, it will take time and continuous effort to try to end or prevent this cycle for a future generation.
If you struggle with an eating disorder or disordered eating, and find your mom sometimes makes “almond-y” comments that trigger you, communication is key. Consider opening a dialogue with her; sharing your experiences and setting boundaries can help protect your mental health while strengthening your relationship. Remember, it may take time for her to understand, so patience and kindness are essential.
Additionally, opening up to friends about your experiences with “Almond Moms” can be incredibly beneficial, especially if they have similar experiences. Finding a supportive community can help you navigate your struggles together. It’s also important to be aware of and challenge any “Almond Mom” thoughts that arise, whether from yourself or those around you. It is difficult to unlearn what you have been told since childhood, but it is critical for building a healthier relationship with food and body image.
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